Many people have rocky relationships with their in-laws, and if you’re one of them, you already know how difficult it is. However, some people enjoy smooth sailing during their entire marriages – and things don’t start to head south until a divorce is in the works.
Your Milwaukee divorce lawyer will probably advise you to keep the peace with everyone during your divorce, including your combative in-laws, but sometimes that’s easier said than done.
So what are you supposed to do?
When In-Laws Act Like Outlaws
You need to know that your Wisconsin divorce attorney will protect your rights throughout the entire process of your divorce, so if your in-laws get out of control, talk to your lawyer for advice. Your divorce does not give them the right to harass you, to keep your children from you, or do anything else that they wouldn’t be allowed to do in any other circumstances.
That said, there are three ways you can keep the peace and prevent your case from becoming reality TV-worthy.
- Let things go. If your in-laws are simply rude, think about the big picture. Does it really matter if they’re not exhibiting good manners? No. Divorce is all about picking your battles, and that even extends to those your in-laws want to fight. (Remember, though, that harassment crosses the line. You need to tell your lawyer immediately if your ex-in-laws are harassing you or interfering with your children.)
- Be kind. While you may not want to think about it, your ex-in-laws are hurting for your spouse. Sometimes people react out of hurt, and it’s not pleasant – so keep in mind that it’s not necessarily personal. Even if it is personal, would you feel the same way if it was your child, brother, sister or parent?
- Avoid them. If you know that it’s going to be tough to keep the peace, avoid your ex-in-laws altogether. Let their calls go to voicemail. If you see them in person, it’s okay to excuse yourself politely and go about your business.
Your lawyer needs to know if your ex-in-laws are interfering, because they certainly don’t have the right to do that. However, you can avoid most common problems by letting things go, being kind and avoiding your ex’s family – and that’s usually your best bet.