You don’t get to pick when you get divorced – and for some of us, it’s unfortunately during (or right after) the holidays. So what can you do to make it through the holiday season and the naturally gloomy months right after them? Check out these five tips:
- Get rid of guilt
- Don’t spend too much time alone
- Recognize your feelings (and accept them)
- Take care of yourself, physically and emotionally
- Get to know yourself again
Divorce Tip #1: Get Rid of Guilt
It’s totally normal to feel guilty during and after divorce – but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy to get that in your head and let it take up space there. Your life is moving forward now, and you’re on a different path.
Divorce Tip #2: Don’t Spend Too Much Time Alone
You need a support network now more than ever. Even if you don’t discuss your divorce with your tribe, you need to know that humans are hard-wired to be social – and that means you need to be around other people, at least some of the time.
Divorce Tip #3: Recognize Your Feelings (and Accept Them)
It’s perfectly okay to have feelings about your divorce, and they can be incredibly broad-ranging. You might feel angry, hurt or upset all in one day (or even one morning!), and in order to move past those feelings, you have to accept them. Know that these feelings will dull with time; they’re not permanent.
Divorce Tip #4: Take Care of Yourself, Physically and Emotionally
Try to take time out for exercise – even if it’s just a walk around your office building – and to eat well. We know, it’s asking a lot, but exercise goes a long way toward clearing your head and helping you stay on top of your game.
Divorce Tip #5: Get to Know Yourself Again
What did you enjoy before you met your spouse? Do it again! If it’s not that simple, do things you never had time to do while you were attending your ex, like reading an entire book cover-to-cover on the sofa or binge-watching your favorite show on Netflix. (Seriously – let the dishes pile up in the sink for one day. It’s not going to hurt anything.)
Do You Need to Talk to a Divorce Lawyer?
If you’re thinking about divorce, or if your spouse has already filed, we may be able to help you. We’ll handle the legal aspects of your split so you’re free to focus on what’s most important: Moving forward.
Call us at 414-383-6700 for a free consultation with an experienced divorce attorney today. We’ll answer your questions and give you the legal advice you need.