If you’re like many people contemplating divorce, you know that it pays to prepare – but where do you even begin? Check out these three things you should know before you divorce your spouse; they may surprise you.
What to Know Before Getting a Divorce
Divorce is one of the hardest things you’ll ever go through, and because you’ll most likely be making the decision during a time of emotional upheaval, it’s easy to let logic fall by the wayside. However, there are three things you need to know before you split from your spouse:
- Divorce isn’t a “win or lose” proposition
- The legal system isn’t built for revenge
- You must be financially prepared to leave
Here’s a closer look at each.
#1. Divorce Isn’t a Win-or-Lose Proposition
There are two types of divorce: Successful and unsuccessful. That doesn’t mean that it’s a win-or-lose situation, though – nobody “wins” or “loses.” It does mean, however, that you can have a successful or unsuccessful divorce. A successful divorce is one in which you walk away reasonably satisfied with the outcome, and the outcome sets you up for a successful future.
#2. The Legal System Isn’t Built for Revenge
When you divorce your spouse, what you’re really doing is dissolving a legal partnership. It’s fine to be angry with your soon-to-be ex, but it’s not fine to try to use the legal system to get vengeance. The courts simply aren’t set up that way, so don’t think that you’re going to “take him for all he’s worth” or “prevent her from getting a cent,” regardless of what your spouse did during your marriage. The law looks at divorce like a business transaction; both parties are entitled to walk away with a fair and reasonable outcome.
#3. You Must Be Financially Prepared to Leave
Going from a dual-income household to a single-income household is an adjustment, even if you make a significant enough amount of money that you don’t need any from your spouse. Depending on your situation, you may need to find a new place to live; you’ll certainly be responsible for your own living expenses (unless a judge orders spousal support, and even then, it’s not unlimited), and you’ll have to adjust your schedule to meet your children’s needs. It’s absolutely essential that you’re financially prepared before you file for divorce.
Related: The effects of divorce on kids
Do You Need to Talk to a Divorce Attorney?
If you’re thinking about divorce, or if your spouse has already filed, we may be able to help you. Call us at 414-383-6700 now to talk about your case – we’ll answer your questions and give you the guidance you need.