We’ve all heard that co-parenting is a great way to raise children after divorce, but it isn’t always easy—especially if you’ve had a contentious divorce and you’ve argued about child custody.
Co-parenting isn’t for everyone, so you shouldn’t feel pressured if you’re uncomfortable with it. However, it can be beneficial for everyone involved… especially your kids.
3 Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents
If you do decide to approach co-parenting with your ex-spouse, you can make things easier on yourself (and on your kids) by following these three tips.
Co-Parenting Tip #1: Peaceful, Consistent Communication
If either of you becomes angry when you’re dealing with each other to co-parent your kids, take a break. Most situations aren’t life-or-death, so stepping back before you say something you’ll regret (or your ex does) is nearly always a good idea.
It’s not always easy to communicate with your ex, but if it’s too tough to talk on the phone, try texting or email. There are several ways you can communicate peacefully without meeting face-to-face or talking on the phone.
Co-Parenting Tip #2: Approach it Like a Business… and the Business is Your Child’s Well-Being
How would you talk to a colleague or a business rival? You’d be civil and polite, and you’d keep the end result in mind.
Co-parenting doesn’t have to be any different with your ex. The business you’re conducting is ensuring your child’s well-being, so make sure you talk (or write) to your ex the same way you would communicate with a colleague or business rival.
Co-Parenting Tip #3: Improve Your Relationship With Your Ex
You’re obviously sincere about wanting to co-parent, so remember that there are a few things you can do to make communication easier:
- Apologize when you’re wrong. It’s not easy to admit, but you should; a sincere apology goes a long way when it comes to communicating with others.
- Ask your ex’s opinion. Start with an issue you don’t feel strongly about; the idea is to show your ex that you value his or her opinion. Ask for input, and if you can, incorporate it.
- Choose your battles. Always put your child’s best interests first. If your ex asks for extra time with the child that would ordinarily cut into yours, it may be a good idea to let it slide. Showing flexibility in instances like that can also encourage your ex to be more flexible with you, and that’s a win-win.
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